RAPE::WHAT WE ALL IGNORE

I want to be a girl again,I want my childhood back......
This statement moved me when i watched a popular actress Stephaine Linus Okereke's cinema hit "DRY"
Even though the movie's supposed theme was on early marriage and VVF,
I connected to the Rape part of it because i believe it is one common but least treated problem in our society today..
.......Rape has been defined as the act of forcing someone to have sexual intercourse against their will. This implies that the victim has been deprived of her choice . 

The Aftermath of Rape is like taking a bitter herbal medicine and having the after taste on your tongue.
At that moment, nothing taste sweet to you anymore whether its your favourite snacks or ice-cream .
The first thing we all commonly do when we hear of a rape incident is condemn the rapist and demand justice for the victim,as good as these steps are ,are they usually enough ? We tend to forget that the victim had just had something precious stolen from her,her innocence,her choice or her whatever it may be..
All she has ever believed in becomes questioned,maybe surrounded by people but yet lonely inside,she begins to have trust issues,she no longer can differentiate between her nightmares and reality,her fears is what decides everything she do,every decision she takes and every action she makes..
A vacumn have been created which she must fill.
And in trying to do so,she turns to drugs,sex or whatever she feels will do the job,but unfortunately they are all usually temporay solutions with dangerous side effects.
It is at this point,addiction becomes the norm for her. At times ,she begins to entertain sucidal thoughts in her mind,a struggle to stay sane and how her brain hasn't exploded from over load,its a wonder..
While we are all condemning the rapist,the victim joins us in condemning the man who just robbed her of her dignity and her self worth but we better be careful not to let her within one inch near a gun and her rapist for vengence..This may just be the feeling keeping her standing. After the incident, society expects the victims to just accept what happened to them and move on. How? This isn't magic and the victims wanting to be accepted into the society again and pretends to forget and carry herself like nothing ever happen but she is like a man sitting on the keg of gun powder.When expects to hear wedding bells and see her walk down the aisle with her lucky man.What was never dealt with rise its ugly head to the surface,and all pent up emotions will have the same devasting effect like an earthquake of 3.0
I can write all day about how a Rape victim feels but now the question is how can she be helped.

** Written by Dora Mickel

My Life In Pictures 📷

Hi guys!! How was your day?mine was stress free because I was in door all through....


I was thinking I could change the content of this blog to my personal experiences on daily bases and at some point feature you my readers too...Maybe we could learn from each others personal experience..
So what do you guys think?




*That picture up there is me yours truly doramickel...

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Thanks to all those who have been visiting this blog even when I don't post new stuffs here..💖💖 I do love you all..officially I want to inform you all that am back for good..

And She Was Wealthy..................................

                                                    Image source: ROYALTY FREE STOCK PHOTO.


A pretty and wealthy woman  was  serving life sentence in prison, angry and resentful about her plight  she had decided that she would rather die than to live another year in prison .
Over the years she  had become good friends with one of the prison caretaker,  whose job  among others was to bury  those prisoners who died in the prison just outside the prison  walls.

Be Motivated Today.....

Never ask for a lighter rain,just pray to God for a better umbrella. What do i mean by that statement? Your attitude and approach towards problems or challenges matters alot.Often atimes we get so tried and weak to seek solutions to problems,we even allow them over shallow us. Life is not about finding the right person to share your challenges with but creating the right relationship with people will help you solve problems.....It not important to hold all the good cards in life but how well you play with the cards you have. Often when we lose all hope and think this is the end remember God and pray. Have faith and be successful. If you think is your alarm clock that woke you up today,try putting it beside a dead body and you will realize that is the grace of God that woke you up.....If you are thankful for the gift of life , share this with your circle and friends. God bless us all...Have a great day ahead.

The Queen Is Angry An Is Official

Agbani Darego Winner of miss world 2001 has a little advice for young ladies/models. Below are are words;                                                                               Ok! I am angry!! And it's Official!!!

I am so going to be blunt... Because I am getting sick and tired of such ladies who wouldn't place value on themselves...

Obviously, Such ladies are forgetting that they are PRINCESSES... QUEENS...PRESTIGIOUS... VALUABLE... EXPENSIVE... NOT FOR SALE...

A Little About My Family

I was born into the family of Mr and Mrs Michael Okoi both of ugep in yakurr local government area of cross River state. My dad was a commercial driver/business man and my mum was a petty trader. My parents marriage was blessed with seven children. Dad loved us so much and made us his first priority, he wanted nothing but the best for us his children . Daddy worked so hard to provide everything we needed. He was a disciplinarian,a loving and caring  father to us his children and also his wife...My mother is the kind of woman i want to grow up to in future. She was a supportive wife,caring and loving wife/mother, she  worked very hard to support her husband. My family was a peaceful one......What do you think of this family........stay clue while i let you into the inside of my family.....you will surely be amazed at how inspire you can become with post about my family..........love you all and bless day ahead.